Anger

Good morning,
I would like to spend a few moments talking about the way we feel; the way we feel more often that we probably should do. I want to talk about anger. Anger is the most negative of the emotions that we feel, many of us on a daily basis; and it is definitely the most destructive, affecting ourselves and those around us. If you look at the world around you, the situations many of us find ourselves in, there is good reason for us to be angry. Companies we entrusted our money to, are collapsing; banks and financial institutions need to be rescued by the government; using money we’d paid in taxes to improve services in our neighbourhoods, towns and cities. The money we have being squeezed from us as companies, who provide us with essential services (food, power, housing, transportation) are raising the costs of everything we need to survive. Our jobs are at risk; we know that our company may very well be one of the next to fall victim to the “credit crunch” crisis we are currently experiencing. We know we may fall, and we know that the outlook for employment to replace that we’d lose is bleak.

All this stress and strain, on top of those we feel anyway on a daily basis; they all add up to making us angry people.

We get angry because we are losing control, we feel like we are losing control in our environment, in our lives. We get angry because we are powerless; but our anger gives power to others. In being angry, we are saying that the cause of our anger is more important than we are.

We have to learn to control our anger. This doesn’t mean we can’t allow ourselves to feel angry (if we deny our anger, it will build up like an emotional pressure cooker, eventually exploding; and most likely triggered by a situation which wouldn’t warrant it); controlling your anger is about releasing it in a controlled way. About controlling our lives and introducing things to help relax ourselves, to calm the rages inside of us. But before we can control our anger, we need to learn to recognise the signs; we need to identify the things that are raising our hackles and putting us on edge.

My thought for today is for us to look at ourselves and see if we are angry people. If we are, then admitting that is the first step to change. I’m going to include a couple of links here which have sites filled with information that may help. In treating people better, less aggressive and angrily, we make the world a better place for them, and for ourselves.

Useful links.

APA Online “Controlling Anger before it controls you” : Link

BBC Health “Anger Management” : Link

Bupa “Anger Management” : Link

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